From Katie S…….
“You just feel like you’re in this dark hole, and you can’t even begin to know how to claw your way out. These women don’t just throw a rope down to you. They climb down in that dark hole with you, and they sit there beside you, and they help you through.”
And from Cameron Reeves Poynter…..
“Look, I come from a family of criers. We have happy tears and sad ones. Painful ones and joyful ones. But we have them — a lot. And we embrace them. So I quietly took Jack’s little face in my hands and wiped away the layers of tears and snot. I stared at his beautiful freckled face and told him that tears do not negate courage. Bravery can be as grandiose as slaying the dragon.”
“But more often than not, bravery is simply accepting that your body or mind or heart is overwhelmed by the pain. Or the beauty. Or the loneliness. Or the love.”
“So I beg you, don’t teach your children that tears are a sign of weakness. For the love of all that’s holy, do not tell them big boys or girls don’t cry. Teach them tears are a sign of courage. That they bear witness, more eloquently than words ever could, to the capacity we have to endure that most cannot bear.”
One of my professors in Seminary many years ago was a Listener. He said, more than once, “I am not offended by your tears.” And, THAT, right there, is the most Religious, Psychological, Compassionate, Empathic encounter I have ever experienced in my life.
And that’s what people need. That’s what people are looking for.
And from Cameron Reeves Poynter….. http://themighty.com/2015/05/why-i-beg-parents-not-to-say-this-to-kids-who-cry/#ixzz3f6ot1cf1